This post is a bit different. It’s about writing. After all, my blog is sub-titled Reflections on Writing, Life and the Spirit, but, truth be told, I haven’t focused on the “writing” part that much.
If you’re a writer, you might resonate to this post. Even if you’re not a writer, please read on. You may find something that speaks to you about your life — and about that “in between” time where we often reside.
I wrote this for another blog about four years ago. In hindsight, I feel that I may always be living and writing in that space of “uncertainty.” But perhaps that indeed is a gift.
Liminal time is that twilight space in our lives when we’ve separated from one situation, but haven’t quite arrived at the next.
The term that’s been used is “no longer and not yet.” We are “no longer” where we were, but we’re “not yet” at transformation.
I’ve been experiencing that in my life the last year, having left a full-time job and now writing my novels. The ground feels shaky under my feet and I’m really not sure what’s next — with anything.
It’s an anxiety-making time but also an exciting one, as Dr. Joan Borysenko, author of the best-seller Minding the Body, Mending the Mind, recently shared in a webinar.
She applied the idea of liminal time to spiritual growth. But I see that process present in writers as well. We have left behind the safety and security of not writing at all to venture forth.
We are “no longer” simply saying we’re going to write our novel, we’re writing it. “No longer” in the first or second or third drafts, but in the thick of it. We’ve committed to finishing our manuscript, to telling our story. We can’t go back.
But what’s next? We don’t know. That’s where the discomfort sets in. For writers, we may feel lost in a wasteland of questions, trying to find that next step. After hours and hours of hard work, there are no guarantees. Will we find an agent, a publisher? Will people buy our book, read it? Will our book find transformation? Will we?
Borysenko advises us to be patient during this “no longer” and “not yet” stage. The urge is often to make a premature closure. For writers, that might be giving up too quickly (as I’ve done many times) and not continue to pitch the book after the 25th or 100th rejection. Not finishing the novel. Or hurrying it off to an agent before it’s polished and in the best shape possible.
As unsettling as it may feel, it’s OK to be in the unknown, Borysenko reassures. Why? For writers, we can see it as a fertile space where we can learn to be resilient. We can approach our writing and the business of publication with mindful curiosity.
Liminal time allows us to be open, spacious and flexible, if we allow it, helping our creativity and our writing.
Most of all, during this time of “no longer and not yet,” Borysenko says, we need to be patient. And we need social support. Writing groups are one way we can stay the course and not feel so lost. So, too, is a sense of humor and the absurd to keep us flexible. Writing-related cartoons on Facebook often help me through many mornings when I want to give up and don’t want to write another word.
The reality is that liminal time can be daunting for most of us. The Israelites understood, wandering in the desert thinking they’d never reach the promised land. Their space of “no longer and not yet” lasted for 40 years! I’m hoping that our collective promised land of publication doesn’t take quite that long.
Ultimately, if we have faith — in ourselves and in the writing journey itself — then the next step will be made clear. And we will indeed get there. Transformed. Published.
(This post first appeared on August 8, 2012, on “Birth of a Novel.” I had the privilege of being part of this blog with some amazing women writers. Sandra Carey Cody, author of The Jennie Connors Mystery Series, now administers the blog and I know she’d love if you’d visit: https://birthofanovel.wordpress.com.
And while I was in that “liminal time” four years ago, I did finish my novel. You can find Loreen on the Lam: A Tennessee Mystery at http://www.ipulpfiction.com/indexLOREEN.html)